1 Jul 2013

BDSM checklist

A checklist is a handy tool to understand your partner and a help to see and measure the level of experience. It gives also a set of limits. Usually they are seen to be used for a random play between top and bottom but they can also be used as a start into a D/s or M/s.


I remember to be slightly shocked the first time I looked at it, so many things I had not yet heard of or done and it was quite daunting to feel and know what I might be interested in. Nevertheless it is a good tool to work with. The more information you receive from each other the easier it becomes to talk openly. Communication is the key in BDSM.

Below is a list of BDSM activities… please put an answer next to each item. Don’t be overwhelmed by this list. Take your time and answer as honestly and as best you can. Your answers will change over and over as you gain more experience in the scene. You should fill out this form every so often to let your Top know about new things you are interested/not interested in!

Your answer should be your interest in engaging in that activity on a scale of 0 – 5, NO,?, +, ! or a combination.
0 = I have no interest/don’t like this, but would do it to please you.
1 = Not very interesting/don’t really enjoy this too much.
2 = This is OK,
3 = This is nice/fun/interesting
4 = I really enjoy/think I’ll enjoy this activity
5 = I LOVE THIS/CAN’T WAIT TO TRY THIS

NO = Hard limit.  I will not participate in this activity at all, at this time.
? = Unfamiliar with this activity.
+ = I’m scared of this but would possibly like to explore it.
! = I’m embarrassed to admit I like this.

Also please feel free to write any explanations or more information after your answers.

Examples:
Flogging: 5  - I especially love to be flogged on my back!!!
Tickling: 5+! - My feet are my most ticklish place but I didn’t tell you that! <s>

1.    Abrasion:
2.    Age Play:
3.    Anal Sex:
4.    Arm/Leg Sleeves:
5.    Asphyxiation/ breath play:
6.    Beating hard:
7.    Beating soft:
8.    Begging/Pleading:
9.    Being Blindfolded:
10.    Being Gagged:
11.    Bestiality:
12.    Biting:
13.    Bondage (heavy):
14.    Bondage (light):
15.    Boot Worship:
16.    Branding:
17.    Breast bondage:
18.    Breast Whipping:
19.    Brown Showers/Scat (feces play):
20.    Caning:
21.    Catheterization:
22.    Chauffeuring:
23.    Choking:
24.    Chosen Clothing for:
25.    Chosen Food For:
26.    Clothespins:
27.    Cock Worship:
28.    Collars (wearing):
29.    Corsets (wearing):
30.    Cutting:
31.    Daddy Play:
32.    Dilation:
33.    Double Penetration:
34.    Electricity:
35.    Enemas:
36.    Examinations (physical):
37.    Exhibitionism:
38.    Face Slapping:
39.    Fantasy Gang Rape:
40.    Fantasy Rape:
41.    Fisting:
42.    Flogging (back):
43.    Flogging (butt):
44.    Following Orders:
45.    Foot Worship:
46.    Forced Dressing:
47.    Forced Homosexuality:
48.    Forced Masturbation:
49.    Forced Nudity:
50.    Forced Oral Sex:
51.    Forced Servitude:
52.    Full Head Hoods:
53.    Genital Sex:
54.    Given Away:
55.    Golden Showers (piss play):
56.    Hair Pulling:
57.    Hairbrushes:
58.    Hand Jobs:
59.    Handcuffs (metal):
60.    Harnessing:
61.    Head (getting):
63.    Head (giving):
64.    Swallowing:
65.    High Heel Worship:
66.    Homage With Tongue:
67.    Hot Waxing :
68.    Housework:
69.    Human Pony:
70.    Human Puppy:
71.    Humiliation In Private:
72.    Humiliation In Public:
73.    Ice Cubes:
74.    Including Others:
75.    Infantilism
77.    Interrogations:
78.    Intricate Rope Bondage:
79.    Kidnapping:
80.    Kneeling:
81.    Leather Restraints:
82.    Lecturing:
83.    Licking: what? Boots
84.    Massage(getting):
85.    Massage(giving):
86.    Medical Scenes:
87.    Mommy Play:
88.    Mouth Bits:
89.    Mummification(saran wrap etc):
90.    Nipple torment:(clamps etc.):
91.    Oral/Anal Play:
92.    Orgasm Control:
93.    Orgasm Denial:
94.    Over-the-Knee Spanking:
95.    Phone Sex:
96.    Piercing (perm):
97.    Piercing (temp):
98.    Pussy Whipping:
99.    Pussy Worship:
100.    Religious Scenes:
101.    Riding Crops:
102.    Scratching:
103.    Sensory Deprivation:
104.    Serving as Ashtray:
105.    Serving as Furniture:
106.    Serving as Maid:
107.    Serving as Pony:
108.    Serving Orally:
109.    Serving:
110.    Sex in Scene:
111.    Sexual Deprivation:
112.    Shaving:
113.    Single Tail (light/sensual):
114.    Single Tail (moderate/heavy):5
115.    Spanking:
116.    Speculums (vaginal):
117.    Spreader Bars:
118.    Stocks:
119.    Straight Jacket:
120.    Strap-on Dildos:
121.    Supplying Victims:
122.    Suspension (inverted):
123.    Suspension:
124.    Swapping:
125.    Swinging:
126.    Tape Gags:
127.    Tattooing:
128.    Teasing:
129.    Tickling:
130.    Triple Penetration:
131.    Uniforms:
132.    Verbal Humiliation:
133.    Videoed Scenes:
134.    Voyeurism: 4
135.    Whipping (cat o’ nine tails etc.):
136.    Wrestling:
137.    Paste IMs.....:

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