28 Jun 2014

Little one, pet, little girl, good girl....... Woman

Pet names are cute. It is fun how many pet names do roam around and how both submissives and/or Dominants refer to each other within D/s.

I really dislike when a Dominant, simply because he refers to himself as a Dominant uses pet names towards me. I do not like to be addressed with a pet name when the person is not really close to me. To me it feels disrespectful. And it also feels as disrespectful to my Master. I am a slave by nature, but that doesn't mean I will behave submissive to all and everyone.
It is not the first time when someone I do not submit to calls me this. Or when they ask me to do things. To me submitting is by choice. Ultimately I choose who I will submit too.

My Master calls me Woman. But that was him who started this, I was so surprised when he did. It is Us. I am called Woman and when used I am his slut or slave. I am his equal and his slave. That doesn't necessarily mean I am a little girl. Somehow to me being called a 'little one' is offensive. I have outgrown to be one.
Woman is the best pet name ever. It is not about formality, but about what fits him. To me it feels right for me. Although I was very surprised at first.

Why? Woman to me makes clear that I am also as responsible for me and for Him. I am responsible of taking care of myself, I need to take the responsibility of taking good care of my mind, my body, my being and those that surround me. He is my guide and inspirator. He owns me. But I am not a plant that needs watering. I need to water myself.

For a long time I struggled with this concept. If owned, should I not leave that all to him?

But no it is not, it is up to me to take care of myself and those close around me. I do want to be accountable for my own responsibilities. I am after all a sensible and sensitive adult. I want to thrive in all I do.
I am woman, he is my man and I am his by choice.

This is about little one, but it could be, kitten, slut, slave or whatever. It is a personal thing not a law.

I loved the feel of this personal message. You can in fact fill in any name.... or perhaps make your own. It takes time to open your self to the other, to simply start understanding the depth of it.

my little one


Belle said...

het grappige is als ik dat filmpje zie, schoot me te binnen zo spontaan who owns now wie ?
schrok ik wel even van , maar eigenlijk ook wel beetje waar

Belle said...

toen ik dat filmje zag "little on"vroeg ik me plotseling af who owns hier eigenlijk. schrok ik wel van maar mooi voorbeeld van relatie natuurlijk dat filmpje

groetjes Belle(dujour) Arida