15 Apr 2015
Making a mistakes is inevitable, but is it bad?
After making a mistake I can really pound on myself, as ever I am my own worst critic! I am working to change that deeply rooted attitude into a small carrot size that is easily eatable instead of my everlasting chewing. So why do I call it a deep rooted attitude. Simply because it is a shame-based attitude and I think that my mistakes, sometimes they aren't my mistakes at all, just emphasize the bad me.
So that is why I now see making mistakes is an option. Why would I call it an option? It would seem we would do it on purpose. I do not think so. Why would we repeatedly make the same mistake? Because every mistake is an opportunity to learn but to learn we have to look back and see the what and how of the mistake. We have to dare -instead of being critical of ourselves or others- to accept we made a mistake and realize that looking at what occurred can change us for the better.
A mistake is not intentional sometimes a misunderstanding, wrong judgment or to identify someone or something incorrectly. It is the weight we give it, but it is also realizing that we judge ourselves worse than others mostly do. So where does that judgement come from. Is that harsh judging inner-voice Yours?
Actually it is a repeating of what others have told you and you have internalized it. You have internalized every negative word as your own. It could be Your mother, father, your siblings, classmates perhaps. I have now realized I do not have to take those (self) criticisms for granted. I can change them. It is by simply giving your self some self-compassion.
So go out there, make mistakes, be yourself, listen to your own inner voice and be compassionate!
Hereby some advises of margaret wehrenberg, click her name for the whole article.
3 Apr 2015
1 Apr 2015
We girls do understand how hard it is… because we deal with it daily…
But there are methods that enable you to conquer this!
So hereby an interesting tutorial..
how to unpack the girls
And for those male dominants among us.. if it is too hard… order to never pack the girls…
…or…. practice… practice and practice…