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The perfect cunt


A story which is often told that in the 19th century some virgin males would be totally put off by the sight of a vulva. It is also well known that a lot of women dislike the look of their own vulva or vulvas in general. But like with a penis, they come in many different forms and sizes. So lets research this lovely flower, as it deserves some attention.



Ok, lets talk cunt. Let me start. My cunt is mine I am living with it for over 40 years and I love to play with it. She (please forgive me Meester and yes it is fully Yours) has also changed over the years and so has my vagina especially after childbirth. Do I care, does it change my sexlife? My sexlife is better than before. It is as it is, my outer labia less rounded and my inner labia are  always visible. But what the heck my face has changed, my belly has changed. I am changing as gravity is tugging gently year after year.  But within all that acceptance I realised that I didn't really like the look of my vulva. Am I fair to myself?



Perfection

But there seems to be the perfect cunt, or better to be said the perfect vulva and even that ideal has suddenly made me conscious of my inner labia. But what is perfect? Perfect is made by the illusion of the porn industry.
What is perfection? Shockingly perfection is shaved, and looks like that of a young child. This lovely pink Vulva we see here is rather rare. Most will not look like that. With cosmetic surgery - and please do notice the word 'cosmetic' - some women will puff up outer labia, cut of inner labia and after childbirth they will cut out a part of the vagina wall and stitch it together again to have a tight vagina like a virgin. 
It shocks me deeply as I know that the vagina and vulva is a delicate place with a large amount of nerves that serves us so delightfully when we are being, touched, caressed, hit, spanked and penetrated. So I really need a very good reason to ever have surgery there.

So what is a perfect vulva, I rather use vulva than vagina as that is what I am talking about. Women and men judge the outside and most of the time vulvas aren't really visible. When I do sports, go to the sauna (in Holland mixed saunas for the sake of the sauna is very common) or to a nudist camping I will see loads of genitals and even there most of female ones are still quite covered. A women really needs to open her legs to give a full display of her genitals. Like a man can only show the size of his cock when it is fully erected. The women who do Brazilian waxes do tell that they see a variety passing by. 

Normality

The artist Jamie McCarthy made it his project to show of the large variety of female vulvas and created 'the Vagina Wall'. And how refreshing is that. He plastered the vulvas of over 400 women and there is such variety that it is just lovely to see. And I bet as mine they will function wonderfully. Why did he make this work? It shows the normality within the variety. 





It made me realise how normal I am. One of the reasons I am so fond of art is that it always questions life. It will put a mirror in front of us. With this piece of art it is almost like a true mirror for all the women. All the women who have willingly offered to be plastered have become anonymous but I realise by doing so they are for me already brave and wonderful women. Mine would fit in as any other. The other reason I like art is that it gives me the opportunity to ponder.
So all you lovely UK residents do go to the Hayhill Gallery as he exhibits his work there may 8th to june 2nd 2012. 

If you want to learn how and why he made it in his own words do use this link: 'the vagina wall'.

Hereby a documentory about the perfect vagina and for those with a strong stomach I found quite a graphic example of a surgeon doing surgery on a vagina. It made me realise the stupidity of cosmetic surgery: I saw nothing wrong there!






the perfect cunt and education








I received a comment on my post 'The perfect cunt' and it deserves a full answer on my side.


Comment
Hi Ara, 

Thank you for sharing your experience and perception about the "perfect cunt". Being in this field (elective surgery) for several years and talking with thousands of women (& men). I am always surprised when people describe this as women seeking "perfection". While some seek a labia reduction for merely cosmetic reasons, the majority of them also experience pain, discomfort or hygiene issues. Similar to a breast reduction (where size of breast can cause back issues), the vulva can also experience pain due the size of labia. While this may not always be a topic women are comfortable discussing or one the media addresses, the issue exists nonetheless. So even though you touch on very valid points. There is no "normal" we are all unique. That is what women should know in regards to the vulva or our bodies in general. My opinion on the matter is that regardless of what women choose, education & knowledge is always the answer. Thank you for having a post on the perfect cunt.

Vanessa



Answer

Dear Vanessa,

Thank you for sharing your opinion. Within your opinion you say that the majority of women have labia reduction because they experience pain, discomfort and hygiene issues. So I truly wondered on what basis you have this opinion because so far I haven't found any evidence. What I have found is a few things I would like to share here.

Pain
I have not read any about pain of the labia minora and how I dislike that name as it is likely that the name by itself is giving them a ‘false’ identity. I am curious where that comes from. Coming from a cycling country I do know that the saddle of the bike makes a huge difference for the comfort of cycling. And underwear made of synthetic material creates discomfort, itching. Another thing is wearing g-strings or other kinds of lovely and sexy underwear that are too small for the average vulva of adult women. Those pieces are made for the bedroom and not for everyday wear. So where the pain comes from I have no idea? But mostly it comes from either bacteria or yeast. Labia-reduction is not a solution for pain. But of course I might be wrong there. 

Discomfort
Well as I said with pain a lot of discomfort comes from the idea that women think they have an abnormal vulva. They have not but they have the idea that there inner labia are to big simply because they stick out. 
You say you are part of the 'elective surgery'. Actually elective surgery is just a general name of a part of surgery when there is no immediate medical necessity to operate upon a person. And cosmetic surgery is part of that. Doing a little research, and I have to say that little research will be done by most of the women, I come to the conclusion that most of the information given is about beauty and not about the reasons you give above so the internet is spreading this fast and making young girls thinking their vulva is ugly. And even worse than that, the idea is given that larger inner labia is a form of a disorder of the vulva!



Hyperthrophy
They even have a name for it. And yes without even knowing this before I am a long-time sufferer.
So what is this infamous disorder? It is called Hypertrophy of the labia and is actually by most of the ones who undergo surgery done for aesthetic reasons. 

For example hypertrophy of the breasts is not something like large breasts but:

...'Hypertrophy of the breast (macromastia and gigantomastia) is a rare disease of the breasts connective tissues; the indication is a breast weight increase that exceeds 600 grams (21 oz), which enlargement causes muscular discomfort and over-stretching of the skin envelope, leading to ulceration. Hypertrophy of the breast tissues might be caused by increased histologic sensitivity to the female hormones prolactin, estrogen, and progesterone; or an abnormally elevated hormone(s) level in the blood, or both. Macromastia is the bilateral, benign progressive enlargement of the breasts; gigantomastia was first scientifically described in 1648.'...

And although I will recognise that there can be examples of malformed labia, the ones showed are not, those have simply normal inner labia.  So when a doctor confirms the feeling of a woman, and when he earns around 5000 to 10.000 $ for a fairly simple and fast procedure I would indeed say that she has a ‘condition’ that can be helped. I would even show her pictures of vulva that have undergone the procedure without telling her all these women had perfectly normal cunts. But some women feel that their inner labia should be within the boundaries of their outer labia. Some plastic surgeons make around 350.000 $ per month on the igonorance and low selfesteem of women. Not any different to the money made in the cosmetic industry on anti-wrinkle creams and so-called anti-aging creams. None help, are very costly and will not stop the aging process. So a vulva rejuvination is simply saying you have gone through puberty and your labia have enlarged which is ugly as yours should like a vulva of a ten year old.

Numbers
Lets look at some numbers in research?
….’ Objective: Our purpose was to describe the surgical procedure, its results, and its complications and to determine whether patients are satisfied with surgical reduction of labia minora in cases of hypertrophy.Study Design: The records of 163 patients who underwent reduction of the labia minora during a 9-year period were reviewed. The ages of the patients ranged from 12 to 67 years (median, 26). Motives for requesting surgery were aesthetic concerns in 87% of the cases, discomfort in clothing in 64%, discomfort with exercise in 26%, and entry dyspareunia in 43%. Anatomic results were assessed 1 month postoperatively. Patient satisfaction was assessed by means of a mailed questionnaire. Results: No surgery-related significant complications were noticed. Anatomic results were satisfactory for 151 patients (93%). Ninety-eight completed questionnaires were returned. Eighty-one patients (83%) found that the results after surgery were satisfactory. Eighty-seven (89%) were satisfied with the aesthetic result, and 91 (93%) approved the functional outcome. Four patients (4%) would not undergo the same procedure again.Conclusion: Labia minora reduction is a simple surgical procedure associated with a high degree of patient satisfaction. (Am J Obstet Gynecol 2000;182:35-40.)’…

So this study already contradicts that the majority is doing it for other reasons than beauty.

Hygiene
I have never read or heard that hygiene is an issue that is a factor to reduce labia as labia are very easy to clean. You can simply wash your vulva with water and that is enough. The vagina cleans itself. However a lot of women are conscious of their bodies and feel they should 'clean' themselves of their natural odours and start using vaginal showers, products sold over the counter, or any other products to prevent to be 'smelly'. A pussy is famous for its own odour, which is usually an attractive addition to our sensuality. Next to that we do not taste like chocolate but we taste like women should. That taste can change due to what we eat, but it doesn’t make us smelling bad.
We have become very conscious of being smelly and actually as a matter of fact rather overly hygienic which can cause a lot of problems. Next to that we are being made conscious about images in the industry, suddenly the expression the ugly cunt has come to life. I have no idea what an ugly cunt is as to me all forms of cunt is beautiful and the ugly cunt is the one seen by women as they have no clue longer what a cunt should look like, as if there is like one kind of nose or ears. I remember how surprised I was when suddenly the word got out after a picture was taken of a celebrity stepping out of the car with all comments that she has an ugly cunt. I saw nothing but lovely labia there and nothing ugly. But the worst of that was that some uneducated young girls would think they are abnormal. While they are not, actually the abnormality lays within what they perceive as normal, which is childlike vulva or ones that can be seen in for example the playboy. It is like the male penis. How to get a male loose self-esteem? That is when they think that all of them have to look like porn stars with large erected cocks, that last forever and that produces when having an orgasm quite the quantity of sperm.

It is a big money industry and I agree, we need to be educated!

More Vulva






Hereby, a link with a variety of Vulva which Florida Dom posted,
thank you Sir!

And thank you Noddy Blue,

Vulva!

We are all so lovely and normal!

This post is an addition to the post the perfect cunt



I used some of the drawing she uses in my former post about the art of fingering. Someone I respect as she did a lot in the US for liberating womens ideas about there own genitals.  So here an interview with her about masturbation. 


Part 1:


Part 2 can be easily found on Youtube. Betty says there is no difference for her between a vaginal orgasm or a clitoral orgasm. I do not agree with her as I do experience mental orgasms as well. I do not care what it is called. I just want for women to have the orgasms they need and like. To experience their body and love it. It is not only an affair of nerves in your cunt but also of how you feel an think, how relaxed you are. There is so much we don't know. Nevertheless I admire her courage and open view. Like her I thought that my innerlabia had become bigger due to masturbation when I was a child! One day I will post where these ideas sprouted. As both men and women have and are made feeling guilty for masturbating.
For me within the BDSM world it is essentail a woman is aware of what she is, who she is and always endavour on a journey to selfesteem and out of the so easily protrayed portrait of being a victim. Most of us are not so much the victim of what happened to them but are the victim of how they portray themselves. Including me! 


But today when I felt most sorry for myself, there were these two whispers of people I cherish, lifting me up and making my day.
So girls, keep kicking my butt, hard, gentle and lovingly and see it helps; I move forward!



the art of fingering





Fingering is a technique which can be learned by all. It is easy to learn when given the right attention. But fingering needs time. The time and patience to learn what makes us tick. Because even though we have the same 'buttons' to push, many women push them differently. 












Defenition 




Wikipedia gives the following defintion of fingering:

..."Fingering is the manual (genital) manipulation of the clitorisvulvavagina, or anus for the purpose of sexual arousal and sexual stimulation. It may constitute the entire sexual encounter or it may be part of mutual masturbation (sex), foreplay or other sexual activities. To "finger oneself" is to masturbate in this manner. It is analogous to a handjob, the manual stimulation of the penis. These activities provide sexual pleasure, whether or not used as non-penetrative or penetrative intercourse."...

This is a very good defintion on the what, but not on the how.

The how to do fingering of the vulva is very short description and in my opinion very inadequate:

..."Massage of the vulva, and in particular the clitoris, is the most common way for a woman to reach and achieve an orgasm. The clitoral body or shaft may be massaged, usually through the skin of the clitoral hood, using up-and-down, side-to-side, or circular motions. The labia and the rest of the genitals are also stimulated by massage and fingering."...


Ah! There we go a 'clean' explantion, but is it that simple? Ihave learned that some women do not know how to have an orgasm and act to have one as they are ashamed they can't. SOme women will at first only have an orgasm by using the showerhead, or a vibrrator. A lot of vibrators are not strong enough for an orgasm. Soe like to hump a pillow and other like to be filled in their Vagina and/or anus. Just try and find out, do not be scared, love your vagina and vulva llok at it. look at pictures so you will see their is a huge variety and enjoy that lovely erotic intsrument you have!!!








skills


On the internet some manuals are found on how to play with the female genitals to direct them towards an orgasms I found some under the header: fingering. One of the biggest thing i am missing in the manuals is that they never ask the girl how she masturbates? What does she do to get an orgasm? 
How does she moves her fingers? 
In what order does she play with her self? 
What does make her wet and ready?


Of course in the process ther should be an intuitive side, considering on how she reacts with every move you make that is a good indicator of how things can be done for her.
Let's look at what in general is advised to do. ANd for me I would start with washing hands, and cleaning and cutting fingernails.






A mens point of view


This is the most general knowledge shared on the internet for men:


Step 1 – Use your palm to massage her mound. To start with, let her ride your palms gently.

Step 2 – Put little lubricant in your fingertip and trace the outer of your girl’s vagina to determine how wet she is. Touch her clitoris and the opening gently. At first, you should start very slow, and then gradually move sideways or up and down.

Step 3 – This is the key part of how to finger a girl. After getting excited, gently put your finger into her vagina. Deeply insert the finger, and if you know her G spot, use a smooth or regular circular motion to rub. Then, you should introduce the finger intercourse, with your finger moving in and out of the vagina, while massaging her clitoris with the thumb of the same hand.

Step 4 – The pleasure derived from the experience will make her breathing to change, and you will feel the muscles of her vagina flexing against the movements of your hand. Pushing your fingers against her thrusts will help in building her orgasm, and you should use the same rhythm to continue to stimulate her. The rhythm is key when learning how to finger a girl because you want to give her the orgasm, and even if she begins to groan or moan and scream, you should not stop the rhythmic stimulation.

There are many techniques on how to finger a girl, but these steps should help your girl enjoy the act. You should also be aware that every woman love to be stimulated, the way your finger caresses her wet pussy would make a difference in the way your woman responds.

These are some other useful tips on how to finger a girl:

In order not to hurt your girl, make sure your nails are cut and are not sharp.
Some girls do not like to be fingered. Therefore, if your girl is new with you, you should ask her first. If you do not know how to ask, you may insert the tip of your finger into her vagina, and watch her reaction. That is going to tell you whether or not to proceed.






A womens point of view


Sure this all will work, nevertheless if a girl is experienced she knows her body and how to finger herself. If she doesn't know the following tips aren't bad at all actually I would say they would be very useful for a man to read as well!


The most important thing is that she is relaxed, feels safe and secure. I guess that is also very valuable for starting out as a couple.




Allocate some time – at least an hour, twice a week – when you know you'll have the house to yourself and can guarantee being undisturbed. (Arranging this can be the hardest part of the exercise!)


Take a leisurely bath, using your favourite bath oil. Relax. Enjoy soaping your whole body. Give your breasts and your genitals plenty of attention.

Dry yourself with love and care and continue to explore your body as you do so.

Move to the bedroom. Make sure it's warm and that it looks nice and is a pleasant place to be. Put some favourite music on if you'd like. Lie on the bed and carry on touching yourself, anyhow and any place that you like. All sorts of parts of your body might give you pleasant feelings. Find them! Give them attention. Be aware of pleasure.

Rub baby oil into your breasts and into your neck and throat. Enjoy the feeling.

Gradually, allow your hands to travel lower in your body. Caress your abdomen, and then use some more baby oil and touch yourself between your legs. There's no wrong or right way of doing this. Just let your instinct take over.

Slip your fingers into your vagina. Try tightening your muscles round your fingers. Then relax. Try gently stretching the vaginal opening – this is something that gives exquisite pleasure to many women.

Start circling the area where your clitoris is. Don't hurry this. As you become more focused on your genitals, you may well find that you start applying more and more pressure to your clitoris, and that your breathing is quickening, and – best of all – that you're really enjoying yourself.

Don't worry if you don't get any further than this on the first few occasions. So long as you feel that you are loving your body and appreciating it and experiencing some good sensations, then that's fine.
Don't forget that the most powerful part of a woman's arousal equipment is in her mind. So, it can be helpful to introduce some mental stimulation into the exercise. Try thinking of things that turn you on. Or, while you're stimulating yourself, read from one of those erotic novels written for women. You might even like to try caressing yourself while viewing a sexy DVD – if you have a DVD player in your bedroom or somewhere else in the house where you can feel uninhibited and comfortable. One of Betty Dodson’s famous DVDs, on assisting women to reach orgasm through masturbation, may help.

You may like to use a vibrator because many women find this increases their arousal quite magically. If you don't know where to get good books, videos or sex aids, see the further information section.
Each time you start caressing your body, try to keep going for longer and to increase your delight in what you're finding out about yourself. Don't panic if you still sometimes have feelings that what you're doing is wrong. Just breathe deeply and tell yourself that it's every woman's right to love and enjoy her own body – and that masturbation is healthy and good and normal.

One day you'll find that your caresses become more insistent and you're breathing heavier and you feel a desperate urge to carry on what you're doing. It's common to feel a bit frightened at the intensity of what's happening, if you've never felt it before. But go with the feelings. You deserve to have them. If rubbing your clitoris alone doesn't quite get you to your climax, try putting one or two fingers of your other hand into your vagina. Or use a vibrator in your vagina or on your clitoris. Your instinct should take over and tell you what to do.

Hopefully, these powerful feelings will lead to your first orgasm. And once you've had one – you'll find you can have others – maybe even on the same day!

Many women like to practise having orgasms a few times on their own before involving a partner. But once you do choose to try with the person you care for, make sure you incorporate what you've been doing into your love play. Show your partner what you like, and let him or her help you to experience this great joy.

If you follow this plan, without putting pressure on yourself to succeed, you'll become more sexually aware – and it shouldn't be too long before you join the ranks of the orgasmic. Good Luck.






Anyway just laugh relax and do not make a big issue about it.  If he cannot finger you properly it is fun and very exciting to do it yourself as ordered in front of him. And perhaps the two of you will find a way that he can even make this wonderful countdown towards an ordered orgasm. Aren't we women lucky to have such a wonderful tool to play with!

Betty Dodson


Thanks to a jewel and a kochanie, one gave me a hug and the other send me a youtube post of an interview with Betty Dodson. 


I used some of the drawing she uses in my forming post about the art of fingering. Someone I respect as she did a lot in the US for liberating womens ideas about there own genitals.  So here an interview with her about masturbation. 


part 1:


part 2 can be easily found on Youtube. Betty says there is no difference for her between a vaginal orgams or a clitoral orgasm. I do not agree with her as I do experience mental orgasms as well. I do not care what it is called. I just want for women to have the orgasms they need and like. To experience their body and love it. It is not only an affair of nerves in your cunt but also of how you feel an think, how relaxed you are. There is so much we don't know. Nevertheless I admire her courage and open view. Like her I thought that my innerlabia had become bigger due to masturbation when I was a child! One day I will post where these ideas sprouted. As both men and women have and are made feeling guilty for masturbating.
For me within the BDSM it is essentail a woman is aware of what she is, who she is and always endavour on a journey to selfesteem and out of the so easily protrayed portrait of being a vicitm. Most of us are not so much the victim of what happened to them but are the victim of how they portray themselves. Including me! 


But today when I felt most sorry for myself, there were these two whispers of people I cherish, lifting me up and making my day.
So girls, keep kicking my butt, hard, gentle and lovingly and see it helps; I move forward!


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